A question for switches: Have you ever been in a relationhip where someone expected you to be submissive all the time?

Have you ever been in a relationship where someone expected you to be submissive ALL the time...and how did that work out for you?

Can you sustain 100% submission to one person, even if you are angry? How about if you are having relationship problems?

I do have my own thoughts on this topic, but would like to hear others' first.

Thanks, Kinky

The WTF genre of mystery fiction

Okay, so I've been gone a few days, I took some much needed time off. I originally planned to go camping, but the weather here sucked so I did a reading vacation. I enjoy reading, especially in my favorite genre, which is mysteries. Now I like a good trashy mystery as well as the next person.

But lately, I've come across these novels which I have to call "WTF books." The reason being that the main character acts with such incredible stupidity and lack of common sense, you have to ask yourself: "WTF?"

Case in point, our heroine (I use this term loosely) has friends who are getting offed right and left, it's clear she's in danger....but then she decides to walk home at night in the dark...alone....even though she knows it's dangerous....and...big surprise now...something *bad* happens. I mean, WTF?

This genre operates on more than one level. Not only do you get to ask yourself WTF when the characters make incredibly lame moves, you get to ask WTF ..how did it even get published?

And then lastly you get to ask: "WTF? Why am I even reading this tripe?"

First Meet Courtesy

A topic obviously culled from my experiences this past weekend.

You meet someone online, things seem good, you set up a face to face. You have a pleasant meal, maybe play around a bit (no actual sex). A nice time had by all (or so you think). You part with no set expectations in mind aside from possible plans to meet up again in a couple weeks.

My question is, what is the expected etiquette at this point? In my mind, once I meet someone, I may not have a boatload of expectations, but I certainly expect common courtesy.

I know it might be difficult, but is it really too much to expect a thanks, but no thanks email if you decide (for whatever reason) that you don't wish to continue?

And yes, I know that NO response is a response.

Thoughts?

Today's the Day

So, today's the day I meet B. My emotions are all over: nervous (will I look fat in the outfit I've picked out?) and stressed (will the chemistry be there?) one moment to hopeful (I really like this guy) and positive (no matter what happens, I'm looking forward to meeting a great person) the next.

Dating (such as it is) at 55. I'm sure I'll manage to do a great job of appearing sophisticated (not) and serene (never -- okay, hardly ever).

I admit it, I am an intensely passionate person. I'm far more like to follow my heart than my head. But it's times like these when I wish I could ratchet the intensity level down a few notches and coast along on a much more even keel (did I mix enough metaphors?). Of course then I wouldn't be me.

Which more or less brings us to today's question: A first meet: Can you maintain some emotional detachment? Or are you a mess or nerves? Or do you careen from one to the other with the speed of an Indy 500 driver (I had to get another metaphor in there)???

Let us know.

Incest : the orginal taboo?

The idea for this post came from a thread on CM. A young male sub got propositioned by his uncle.

There were two VERY divergent schools of thought.

The first was incest is wrong, wtf is wrong with you, and how could you trust someone willing to take advantage of your sibling's child.

The other was, well gee, you're both male, it's not like you will produce children, so if you can emotionally cope with it, go for it!

Where are your thoughts? Is incest okay as long as no kids are produced? Or is it always just plain wrong?

I'd like to know your thoughts.

Cat Takes A Shower

And I thought my cats were strange. . . .

The following was found posted very low on a refrigerator door.

Dear Dogs and Cats: The dishes with the paw prints are yours and contain your food. The other dishes are mine and contain my food.. Placing a paw print in the middle of my plate and food does not stake a
claim for it becoming your food and dish, nor do I find that aesthetically pleasing in the slightest.

The stairway was not designed by NASCAR and is not a racetrack. Racing me to the bottom is not the object. Tripping me doesn't help because I fall faster than you can run.

I cannot buy anything bigger than a king sized bed. I am very sorry about this. Do not think I will continue sleeping on the couch to ensure your comfort. However, dogs and cats can actually curl up in a ball when they sleep. It is not necessary to sleep perpendicular to
each other, stretched out to the fullest extent possible. I also know that sticking tails straight out and having tongues hanging out on the other end to maximize space is nothing but sarcasm.

For the last time, there is no secret exit from the bathroom! If, by some miracle, I beat you there and manage to get the door shut, it is not necessary to claw, whine, meow, try to turn the knob or get your paw under the edge in an attempt to open the door. I must exit through the same door I entered. Also, I have been using the bathroom for years - canine/feline attendance is not required.

The proper order for kissing is: Kiss me first, then go smell the other dog or cat's butt. I cannot stress this enough.

Finally, in fairness, dear pets, I have posted the following message on the front door:

TO ALL NON-PET OWNERS WHO VISIT AND LIKE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT OUR PETS:

(1) They live here. You don't.
(2) If you don't want their hair on your clothes, stay off the furniture. That's why they call it 'fur'-niture.)
(3) I like my pets a lot better than I like most people..
(4) To you, they are animals. To me, they are adopted sons/daughters who are short, hairy, walk on all fours and don't speak clearly.

Remember, dogs and cats are better than kids because they
(1) eat less,
(2) don't ask for money all the time,
(3) are easier to train,
(4) normally come when called,
(5) never ask to drive the car,
(6) don't hang out with drug users,
(7) don't smoke or drink,
(8) don't want to wear your clothes,
(9) don't have to buy the latest fashions,
(10) don't need a gazillion dollars for college and
(11) if they get pregnant, you can sell their children .

Aftercare: an essential part of your session?

I've been reading a thread on CM about aftercare. There were two schools of thought presented: 1) Aftercare is an essential part of any session, and 2) aftercare is all BS propagated by princess subs who like to have their dom running around catering to them.

I happen to think aftercare is important, especially for those prone to sub drop.

What say you?