The face to face meet: How soon do you do it?

I'm Meeting Someone New in Less Than Two Weeks

I have plans to hook up with someone for the first time the weekend after next. A male dominant type. At this point we don't have anything too major planned. We'll meet for lunch, he'll come back to my place, we'll go from there. He'll probably spend the night (he's in the next state) and he understands this will most likely be on my couch. So far he's good with all this.

He's actually a very nice person. We've been having some interesting conversations over the phone in the last couple weeks. And I'm *very* physically attracted to him. I'm trying to keep on a nice even keel while being mildly hopeful.

Which brings us to our topic. The face to face meet: How soon do you do it? Are you a "meet ASAP" type or a "I need to let this relationship grow online for a few months" type? Why?

Or do you not use the internet to meet people? And why is that?

Let us know!

New Discovery in New Guinea

Wow ! Great pictures.

Switches- would you consider a switch for a partner?

Would you consider a switch for a BDSM partner? Why or why not?

Please, for clarity's sake, let us know if you are dom or sub.

All opinions welcome !!!

Very Funny Video

The Internet and BDSM: Has it had a Good Effect or a Bad One???

A comment I made on a post yesterday brought this topic to mind. I mentioned that the internet has brought BDSM out into the open. Although I think this is a good thing (overall), there are some down sides to having the BDSM lifestyle be a more mainstream subculture.

The big downside for me are all the wankers (both male and female) who think the BDSM community is a place to make a quick sex hook up. Then there are the newbies who profess to having 20 years experience, and they're in their 30s (Or, you can tell from their profile or their messages, that's just not possible.)

And I think both of these things has had a huge effect on the BDSM community as a whole. We used to be very nurturing to new people who were interested in learning about the lifestyle (once we trusted them enough to teach them the secret handshake!). Now, a newbie is considered a wanker and a poser until they prove otherwise. And that's just sad.

What are your thoughts? Has the Internet helped the BDSM subculture? Or has it hurt it?

BDSM Contracts: Do you use one?

I was reading a thread in one of the many forums I monitor about relationship contracts. There were two basic schools of thought.

The first was that a BDSM contract is an essential part of the relationship building process. "There greatest value is at the inception of a relation. When the spoken word of expectations is put in written form, it serves to clarify and document responsibility." This poster also indicated that his relationship contract was used for benchmarking, which from my point of view would seem to be a very useful tool for those in LTR of this nature.

The second school of thought was that, as the contract could not be enforced, it was useless.

Although I agree BDSM relationship contracts are not enforceable, I believe the process itself has some merit. What say you?

Kinky Sex on the Rise

According to the article, kinky sex is on the rise. In other words, more kinksters are emerging.

Is this your take on things?

We all know the internet has made kink more mainstream. But has this more mainstream interest introduced people to kink that would not be (for want of a better word) "bent" that way?

Or has the kink always been there, it's just more people feel safe allowing it to emerge b/c it's more mainstream these days?

What are YOUR thoughts?

DJ^Prey^ on Evolution Radio

That's the link for my radio station. Yes, I'm an online DJ. Mon and Wed evenings, 7-9 PM EST.


This is a billboard station, so classic rock. Enjoy !!

cat versus aquarium

Very funny video. You get the idea the cat does that, alot !

How to Follow This Blog, and Other Stuff

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Please Help Me with Resource Links

Among other things, I see this blog as a resource tool. I have already posted some bdsm links and a reading list. PLEASE let me know if you have a great site or a good book that should be added to my lists.

Day One As a Kinky Blogger - Privacy

Okay, this has been an *interesting* process already. I go through the blog set up, no problem. I'm tooling along nicely, adding links to kinky info sites, getting my reading list set up, thinking, "this is EASY. I can do this."Then I go to view my blog and realize I fucked up major early on and didn't notice it. Right there, at the top of my page is the email addy I associated with the blog. And it has my full name. Not just that, the state I live in, just in case, you know, my FULL NAME isn't enough.

Jesus Christ on a bike !!

I had no idea THAT would happen !! So now I have to got to the help forums, and find out wtf to do. And yes, I know I could have deleted it and started a new one, but I'd just spent time adding all those links, and I'm stubborn, and and . . .

The help forum had actual help (nice !) and I managed to fix the issue. But it did require me to THINK before I'd really woken up (drag !).

Which segues into my first blog topic: How out front are you about your kink? If the above had happened to you, would you have panicked like I did? Do you have a lot of kinky friends, or are you so private about your kink, no one knows save for a handful of online kink friends??? What would you do if you were outed?